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Improve this chart | Infatuation | Love |
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Definition: | Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning desire. | A decision to commit oneself to another and to work through conflicts instead of giving up. A deeper understanding or care. |
Associated with: | Selfish uncontrollable desire | Decision to devote yourself to another person for better or worse. |
Sub-Categories: | Physical desire, crush, or lust , hormonal activity, addictive chemical reactions in the brain | Intimacy, commitment, security. |
Symptoms: | urgency, intensity, sexual desire, anxiety, high risk choices, reckless abandonment of what was once valued | Faithfulness, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance. |
Feels like: | All consuming euphoria similar to recreational drug use (addictive chemical reactions in the brain), stupidity (cupidity). Can risk everything for the next hit of adrenalin. | A deep affection; contentment, confidence.Partners communicate and negotiate appropriate expectations.. requires a lot of selflessness and polite assertiveness. |
Person to Person: | reckless commitment to satisfy one's all consuming lust | Commitment to another. |
Effect: | being controlled by brain chemistry; loss of ability to make rational evaluations of what is true, valuable and worthy of pursuit | Steadfast decision to commit yourself to another person. |
Result: | Emptiness, consequences of choices made while under the influence of mind numbing lust; | Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise confident secure children; a more stable society; radical decrease in the need for welfare, jails, lawyers and mental health counselors. |
Interdependency: | Cannot be sustained without some portion of love and physical attraction, always desire to be close to that person at any cost. | Partnership. |
Time Period: | Takes off fast and furious like a spark in dry grass burns out quickly and can leave feelings of emptiness. | long term offering companionship and support. |